I grew up with some handicaps. My teachers wrote” ND has big problems with reading and writing”, they said I was a dyslexic.
I believed them. My grades where bad. Than became worse.
My self-esteem was below zero. I didn’t talk much, because of my insecurity I started to stutter.
I was blocked
Stories always fascinated me. I would think up grand adventures, but I was afraid to write them down.
I couldn’t spell.
At the age of 12 I moved with my family from Switzerland to the USA. Everything was in English now. At first it brought fear to my spelling ability, but I realized that it was a chance to start fresh. No teacher knew that I was a dyslexic. As I learned a new language my stuttering started to disappear. My self-esteem started to grow.
When I returned to Switzerland at the age of 15 I had to learn German again. Still afraid of making mistakes I did my minimal and started to use my mouth over writing for communication. I had accepted that I couldn’t write, so I would become a speaker. Working as a salesman and a youth pastor was great. Speaking was my greatest tool. I didn’t have to write a lot, or let someone else do it for me. I had accepted the inability to write.
At the age of 36 my life took another turn. My job changed from being a youth pastor to a coach and leader developer. Communication didn’t change right away. I still spoke a lot. More and more people told me, that what I said would be great in writing.
We can often live for years with the chronic pain of our lack of vision, leadership or management in our personal lives. We feel uneasy and uncomfortable and occasionally take steps to ease the pain, at least for a time. Because the pain is chronic, we get used to it, we learn to live with it.
But when we have problems in our interactions with other people, we’re very aware of acute pain—its often intense, and we want it to go away.
That’s when we try to treat the symptoms with quick fixes and techniques ~ the band-aid approach.
We don’t understand that the acute pain is an outgrowth of the deeper, chronic problem. And until we stop treating the symptoms and start treating the problem, our efforts will only bring counterproductive results. We will only be successful at obscuring the chronic pain even more.
The place to begin building any relationship is inside ourselves, inside our circle of Influence, our, own character. Steven Covey
Two of our most proven people will leave ICF Zurich this summer 2013 with their whole family. ND & Sophal Strupler will plant a new ICF church in Cambodia. They are ready for a really big adventure.
We (ICF Zurich) asked how all this happened and what they feel personally.
Interview with ND Strupler
How on earth did it come about that you decided to move to Cambodia with your family? Your wife Sophal is an adoptive child from Cambodia…
This has to do with our first decision we took over 20 years ago: We where part in the ICF project and are prepared to go “all in”. Now it’s the same just with another challenge. It is a consequence of our first decision wanting to have an excited life in the kingdom of God. Sophal was the one who took the initiative to plant an ICF in Cambodia. It wouldn’t have been my choice, I would have picked California (another place with “C”…). But when she vocalized this, I also realized that like a puzzle many pieces fit together and it really made sense.
Where in Cambodia will you start and why?
After a time of research we chose the city of Siem Reap. At the moment, this is the fastest growing city in Cambodia because it is a tourist spot which attracts many Cambodians from the surrounding provinces. Unfortunately, it’s not near to the sea but one flying hour from Siem Reap.
What is your and your family’s motivation to take such a step after such a long time of active church work in ICF Zurich? You are not 20 any more…
Andy Stanley, founding and lead pastor of North Point Community Church. He has written a must-read book – Making Vision Stick- for leader/communicators. The first thing I love about the book is that it’s only 74 pages long. If all books were as short, I’d be able to read a lot more books! Here are some of my favorite quotes:
One of the greatest challenges is making vision stick. Vision doesn’t have much adhesive.To get people to sit still long enough to understand your vision is hard enough. But to get them to actually organize their lives around it is supremely difficult. The urgent and legitimate needs of today quickly erase our commitment to the what could be of tomorrow.It’s the leader’s responsibility to ensure that people understand and embrace the vision of the organization.
5 things you can do to increase the adhesiveness of your vision
1. State the vision simply. if your vision is going to stick in people’s minds, it must be memorable. People don’t remember or embrace paragraphs. They remember and embrace sentences. And, If the vision is too complicated, nothing changes.
2. Cast the vision convincingly. In this section, Andy says leaders must define the problem, offer a solution, and present a reason for the solution. He writes …
Every vision is a solution to a problem.Buy-in by others hinges on your ability to convince them you are offering a solution to a problem they are convinced needs to be solved.
A leader points the way to a solution and gives a compelling reason why something must be done now.
Dr. Benjamin Bloom of the University of Chicago conducted a five-year study of leading artists, athletes, and scholars. It consisted of anonymous interviews with the top twenty performers in various fields, including pianists, Olympic swimmers, tennis players, sculptors, mathematicians, and neurologists.
That information was supplemented by additional interviews with those people’s families and teachers. Bloom and his team of researchers sought to find clues to how these high achievers developed.
Determination beats talent
What they discovered was that drive and determination not talent—led to their success.
Never Give Up!
If you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always gotten. JOHN C. MAXWELL
Success is going from failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm. ABRAHAM LINCOLN
4 social media tips to send your business off to achieve social media success:
First, decide which social networks make most sense for your company. It’s better to have a limited, strategic presence on social media than to be everywhere without purpose.
Define your desired goals. For example, do you have the goal of growing your Facebook community? If so, you should be brainstorming content, promotions, and posts that will attract your target customer.
Assigning an intern to manage the social media channels a few hours per week is simply not enough anymore. Your online community expects to receive responses to inquiries in a timely manner (typical accepted response time is within 24 hours). If you aren’t willing to invest the time and money it takes to respond to your online followers, then you probably shouldn’t be on social media.
Customers want to know someone is listening. The simple task of responding speaks volumes to your customer service. If you don’t have the answer and need some time to find it, let that person know that you have seen their question and you are working to get the answer for them.
Don’t just broadcast anything to make it look like you’re active on social media. If you want to build a following, create content that makes you a leader in your industry.
If you don’t have enough time to regularly produce original quality content, share the good content that’s already out there or approach the experts to create content for you.
In real life, when you’re trying to make friends, talking about yourself won’t get you far. It’s the same with social media. Your participation in the space should foster conversation. It’s okay to tell your online community about a new product or promotion, as long as that’s not all you’re doing.
Make it easy for your community, customers, and industry leaders to share content on your social pages. Be an active listener to better understand what your community wants.