Thank You

Von Dave und TanjaIt is not easy to say goodbye. Some of our relationships have developed over 20 years. We know it’s not the end, but to let go is hard. Sometimes we cry because it hurts so much.

We know, that deep relationships will stay the distance and endure over time. But we also know, that we need to make new friends. This is also a part of the process of letting go.

Our friends here will always have a place in our heart.

We wish to stay in contact and look forward to a visit in the coming years.

Thank you for all the good and challenging times we had with you.

You Can Be A Hero

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It was a special day giving clothes to families in need. It was the second time we did this during our vacation. In the past we have spent our holidays to please ONLY ourselves. Since the last years we have always planed in some time to give away time/energy or gifts during our vacation.

We have always came relaxed out of our vacation.
Now we come home relaxed and fulfilled.

Here are some more photos of that day we spent in the slums Viagra Online of Phnom Penh.

Love Is A Verb

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Like a mother loves her child. Love is unconditional. Love is given!

Boat Trip 1405The problem with negative thinking is that it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. People become reinforced in the direction they are determined, and they produce evidence to support the belief. They feel increasingly victimized and out of control, not in charge of their life or destiny.

They blame others or circumstances for their own situation.

After a late poker night my neighbor said to me, “ND, my marriage is very difficult. It’s been like this for a long time. I think we have lived apart. I guess I don’t love her anymore and she does not love me. I think we should separate.”
“The love feeling isn’t there anymore?” I asked.
“Yes!” he reaffirmed.
“What did you promise when you got married?” I asked.
“Did you promise to love her in good and bad times?”
“yes”
“Then love her,” I replied.
“But you don’t understand. The feeling is gone.”
“Than I guess this is a bad time. Love her! If the feeling isn’t there – that’s a good reason to love her even more.”
“But how do you love if you don’t
feel the love?”
My friend, love is a verb. Love—the feeling—is a fruit of love, the verb. So love her. Serve her. Sacrifice. Listen to her. Empathize. Appreciate. Affirm her. Are you willing to do that
?

Love is a verb even if some people make it a feeling.

Intense love does not measure, it just gives. Mother Teresa

We are not a product of our feelings. We are not driven by our feelings. If our feelings control our lives it’s because we given them control and empower them to do so.

Proactive people make love a verb.

Love is something you do, the sacrifices you make.
If you want to see love on full display, look at the people that have sacrificed for others, even for people that did not love in return.
As a parent I know that love is a value that is becoming alive through loving actions abuse of volume pills.
Proactive people subordinate feelings to values.

Love begins at home, and it is not how much we do… but how much love we put in that action. Mother Teresa

Love, the feeling, can be recaptured.

Question:

  • What are you doing to recapture that love feeling?

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Why I Hate Religion

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I like this poem, because it gets people thinking about faith in a different way.
I believe everyone has faith, the question is only – in what?
I want my faith to bring life, hope and love to the people I get in touch with.

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I Love Europe

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I’ve been traveling Europe intensively for the last 4 years and I agree with this video 100%.

Many of my friends think that people from Bulgaria, Albania, Hungary, … are so different.
Well, I would argue, that we are more “the same” than we think.
That does not make me a lover of the European Union.
It only makes me a lover of people.

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We are living in a world of individualists. Everyone is their own king and want’s to have it their way. We all long for independence and miss the quality of interdependence. San Francisco-45I will not go into that right now, but I want to focus on 4 simple factors that measure a great friendship. I know there is much more to a great friendship, but I would argue, that if one of these are missing, you will never have a GREAT FRIENDSHIP.

What does it take to build a great friendship?

4 Keys to build a great friendship

1. Time

As soon as you get to know someone you will only deepen a friendship if you spend time together. That does not mean you have to spend 5 hours a day hanging out. It means, you want to plan time of fellowship into your busy schedule. If someone has no time for me, I can be sure, that chances of building a great relationship will never happen. It’s the “I WANT” that matters.

Do you want to spend time to build a great friendship?

2. Commitment

Commitment comes into play when you find yourself spending time with someone. Commitment means you make a decision, not to talk bad behind your friends back. You commit to the friendship and to protect it.

Do you want to commit yourself to build a great friendship?

It is not so much our friends’ help that helps us, as the confidence of their help. Epicurus 

3. Love

Love grows! Love makes the friendship work. Love in a friendship means to accept them the way they are. You don’t and can’t change a person, but you can choose to love – no matter what. It’s my decision if I love my friend despite his deficit and defects. To love him in good and bad times.

Do you want to love to build a great friendship?

It is one of the blessings of old friends that you can afford to be stupid with them. Ralph Waldo Emerson

4. Trust

Trust grows over time. Trust is fragile. But trust is the bond in a great friendship. Honesty will make a good friendship great. If you can say “I trust you”, than you know this friendship is great. If you have to guess if you can count on your friend in time of need. It’s not a great friendship. Trust can only be tested in a situation you have good reason to distrust. That’s what it’s all about.

Do you want to trust even if you have good reason not to?

The friend is the man who knows all about you, and still likes you. Elbert Hubbard

We all want a great friendship. 

The Question ist:
Am I ready to pay the price for a great friendship?
Am I a great friend for someone else?

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(Deutsch) Was unsere Kinder gross werden l

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5 Things our kids need to become great.

1. Touch
Our kids need us to hug them often. This is called meaningful touch.

2. Words
Our kids need us to tell them “I love you” often; whisper love and acceptance into their heart through your words and actions.

3. Worth
Our kids need us to tell them and show them that they matter to us and that they are worthy of being loved by us. As parents we have the privilege and responsibility to build God-esteem into them.

4. Vision
Our kids need us to paint a God-sized, God-glorifying, world-changing vision of their future. We have the tremendous privilege and awesome responsibility to identify and call out the greatness God has deposited in them.

5. Commitment
Our kids need us to be actively committed to their lives, which means doing the four things I listed, and doing them consistently throughout their lives.

Authors Gary Smalley and John Trent wrote a book called The Blessing: Giving the Gift of Unconditional Love and Acceptance

What I Like And Don’t Like About Christmas

FEUERZANGENBOWLE !!!!It’s this time of the year again.

Everyone is running around getting last minute presents, baking cookies and decorating the front door…

This is what I like about Christmas

  • People are gathering at the Christmas market and drink something hot and steamy in the cold
  • Inner city’s are lit with a beautiful light decoration
  • The atmosphere of a not too crowded Christmas market in Germany
  • The smells like cookies in shopping-malls
  • Watching people spend money on a gift for someone else
  • I have the opportunity to give someone a present without any odd looks
  • Mulled wine & Feuerzangenbowle
  • Our home is beautifully decorated. Even outside. Continue reading What I Like And Don’t Like About Christmas