Integrity Goes Beyond Honesty

Honesty is telling the truth — in other words, conforming our words to reality.

Integrity is conforming reality to our words — in other words, keeping promises and fulfilling expectations.

This requires an integrated character, a oneness, primarily with self but also with life.

Let’s get practical

One of the most important ways to manifest inregrity is to be loyal to those who are not present. In doing so, we build the trust of those who are present. When you defend those who are absent, you retain the trust of those present.

Outtakes from Stephen Covey’s book – The 7 habits of highly effective people

Thank You

Von Dave und TanjaIt is not easy to say goodbye. Some of our relationships have developed over 20 years. We know it’s not the end, but to let go is hard. Sometimes we cry because it hurts so much.

We know, that deep relationships will stay the distance and endure over time. But we also know, that we need to make new friends. This is also a part of the process of letting go.

Our friends here will always have a place in our heart.

We wish to stay in contact and look forward to a visit in the coming years.

Thank you for all the good and challenging times we had with you.

My New Team


These are the people that will join me to Cambodia. I am very exited and thankful to have such great people come along. Most will stay for at least one year. This will give us the opportunity to put together a fun Khmer class.
The plan is to work out a strategy for the coming years.
How do we want to start the NGO?
How do we build the church?
What are the greatest needs and how can we meet them in the long run?

Looking forward to a fun time.

Helping Friends

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3 things about helping a friend in need.

1. Honesty

Honesty is speaking truth and creating trust in minds of others.

If you are honest when helping a friend you will create a save space for them to be open up and trust that your advice will be true.

Almost any difficulty will move in the face of honesty. When I am honest I never feel stupid. And when I am honest I am automatically humble. Hugh Prather

Kings take pleasure in honest lips; they value a man who speaks the truth. Proverbs 16,13

A key word is confrontation!Don’t try to win them, by deceiving honesty. Honesty means: “I love you so much, I will confront you with the truth.” Even if you are not 100% sure. It’s not a crime to change your mind – as long as you are honest about it.

2. Advisers

An Adviser is someone who is giving advice.

You can’t solve all problems! Stay open to include advise from other people and friends.

Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed. Proverbs 15,22

Wise men don’t need advice. Fools won’t take it. Benjamin Franklin

3. Listening

A Listener is someone who listens, especially to a speech

Listen with more than just your ears. Your friend may tell you something he can’t say with words.

The first duty of love is to listen. Paul Tillich

Nonverbal Communication

  • My body is facing you
  • I am looking at you
  • I can feel your pain
  • I hear more than you are saying

Asking questions is a very effective way of active listening. Know that words are only the tip of the Iceberg.

Everybody needs a friend that will help when times are dark. I am thankful for my friends that have carried me trough those tough times.

Sometimes we don’t know how to help. Than it is so good to know that God knows. It’s in moments like these, when we are praying with the right motivation.

May you be the best friend to your friends!

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