Helping Friends

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3 things about helping a friend in need.

1. Honesty

Honesty is speaking truth and creating trust in minds of others.

If you are honest when helping a friend you will create a save space for them to be open up and trust that your advice will be true.

Almost any difficulty will move in the face of honesty. When I am honest I never feel stupid. And when I am honest I am automatically humble. Hugh Prather

Kings take pleasure in honest lips; they value a man who speaks the truth. Proverbs 16,13

A key word is confrontation!Don’t try to win them, by deceiving honesty. Honesty means: “I love you so much, I will confront you with the truth.” Even if you are not 100% sure. It’s not a crime to change your mind – as long as you are honest about it.

2. Advisers

An Adviser is someone who is giving advice.

You can’t solve all problems! Stay open to include advise from other people and friends.

Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed. Proverbs 15,22

Wise men don’t need advice. Fools won’t take it. Benjamin Franklin

3. Listening

A Listener is someone who listens, especially to a speech

Listen with more than just your ears. Your friend may tell you something he can’t say with words.

The first duty of love is to listen. Paul Tillich

Nonverbal Communication

  • My body is facing you
  • I am looking at you
  • I can feel your pain
  • I hear more than you are saying

Asking questions is a very effective way of active listening. Know that words are only the tip of the Iceberg.

Everybody needs a friend that will help when times are dark. I am thankful for my friends that have carried me trough those tough times.

Sometimes we don’t know how to help. Than it is so good to know that God knows. It’s in moments like these, when we are praying with the right motivation.

May you be the best friend to your friends!

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Are Books Dying?

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The truth about this world is, that it will reinvent it’s self faster than we would like to think. Just the other day I was talking to my friend at work about Facebook and Twitter. He said, that he is not that kind of guy who would write posts.

It was a similar response that I have gotten when I had my first mobile phone about 15 years ago. People said: “I will never have a mobile phone. I don’t want to be reachable all the time.” The same people own at least one mobile phone by now.

About 13 years ago, when I got my first email address. I was one of the first in my neighborhood. Almost everybody said: “I don’t need this. I have a mailbox in front of my house”. All those people have an email address and use it everyday.

Again, the truth is the world is moving so fast you can’t stay at the heartbeat of time by not being open to new things and letting go of the things that you have gotten used to.

I saw this new device called the IS Tablet and I think this will be the beginning of a new era again.
Are books and print media going to die?

After watching this video I thought to myself. Yes, this is how I would love to “read” a magazine. I think my kids would love to read in this kind of way too. Even my mom would like it (she is on Facebook since 5 month).

I got a book called “DERAILED : five lessons learned from catastrophic failures of leadership / by Tim Irwin”. Its a book from Thomas Nelson Publishing. On the inside of the book it explains the new Nelsonfree concept – Instead of being locked into one format or another, with Nelsonfree you buy one format and you get two more for free - an ebook and an audio version.

Books and print media are not dying away right now, but it’s changing and we getter get used to it.
There is still something secret about taking a good book and hiding somewhere save from the outside world. And on the other hand I love new inventions and can’t wait to use this new Tablet myself.

Question:

  • What are you thinking about this change of books and magazine publishing?

You Got The Best Opportunity

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DON’T LOOK FOR THE NEXT OPPORTUNITY. 

Life Is Art

THE ONE YOU HAVE IN HAND IS THE OPPORTUNITY. 
We are always waiting for the perfect opportunity.
It almost never happens. 
You’re probably working on a job or project right now and saying, ‘This is boring, let’s just deal with it and get it over with. We’ll make the next one good.’
Whatever is on your desk right now, that’s the one.
Make it the best you possibly can. 
It may not be great, but at least you’ll have the satisfaction of knowing you did the best you possibly could, and you may learn something from it.
And you’re always free to do an alternative that does satisfy your creative standards.
Good opportunities don’t just come along.
That’s true, even if you’ve earned a reputation for doing good work (although that helps).
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Successful solutions are often made by people rebelling against bad opportunities.

Nothing is Impossible


I grew up with some handicaps. My teachers wrote” ND has big problems with reading and writing”, they said I was a dyslexic.
I believed them. My grades where bad. Than became worse.

No wonder.
My self-esteem was below zero. I didn’t talk much, because of my insecurity I started to stutter.

I was blocked

Stories always fascinated me. I would think up grand adventures, but I was afraid to write them down.
I couldn’t spell.

Fresh start

At the age of 12 I moved with my family from Switzerland to the USA. Everything was in English now. At first it brought fear to my spelling ability, but I realized that it was a chance to start fresh. No teacher knew that I was a dyslexic. As I learned a new language my stuttering started to disappear. My self-esteem started to grow.

Accepted

When I returned to Switzerland at the age of 15 I had to learn German again. Still afraid of making mistakes I did my minimal and started to use my mouth over writing for communication. I had accepted that I couldn’t write, so I would become a speaker. Working as a salesman and a youth pastor was great. Speaking was my greatest tool. I didn’t have to write a lot, or let someone else do it for me. I had accepted the inability to write.

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Overcome

At the age of 36 my life took another turn. My job changed from being a youth pastor to a coach and leader developer. Communication didn’t change right away. I still spoke a lot. More and more people told me, that what I said would be great in writing.

At the end of 2009 I wrote my first blog post.

Today you can free.

“With God nothing is impossible!”

Your Ideas Are Not Yours

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Give away everything you know, and more will come back to you. 

Noa Strupler

You will remember from school other students preventing you from seeing their answers by placing their arm around their exercise book or exam paper.
It is the same at work, people are secretive with ideas. ‘Don’t tell them that, they’ll take the credit for it.
The problem with hoarding is you end up living off your reserves.
Eventually you’ll become dry.
If you give away everything you have, you are left with nothing.
The truth is, the more you give away the more comes back to you.
Ideas are open knowledge.

Don’t claim ownership of Ideas

They’re not your ideas anyway, they’re someone else’s. They are out there floating by.
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IDEAS ARE OPEN SOURCE.
Give away everything you know, and more will come back to you.

Keep Social Media Simple

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The way to keep social media simple is to be selective.

Social Media can be overwhelming. Don’t get me wrong: I love social media. 

Social Media exists for three reasons:

  1. to connect with people
  2. to share with others
  3. to learn from others

If you feel like you are spending to0 much time with social media.

Ask yourself these questions:

  1. Why do I want to go to this social media site?
  2. Is this site more conducive to broadcasting or engaging in a network of people?
  3. What’s the benefit of this social media site to me?
  4. Am I looking to pass the time using a social media?

Here are the Apps I use:

  • Instagram. I love taking pictures. I love learning form others. Some great connections have been made over the last years.
  • I use the free Buffer App to schedule the sharing of things I think are important. This saves me lot’s of time and I don’t have to be online all day.
  • I used the JustUnfollow service to unfollow some people on miss out on what my friends have to say when I log in to join the conversation.
  • Hootsuite. I enjoy being involved in chats, and answering and asking questions online.  I respond to nearly everything…just not necessarily the very second you contact me.
  • My goal is to check in on Twitter and Facebook at least twice a day to keep the conversation going.

I’ve turned off notifications on my phone for my Social Media apps. By having these social media apps off on my iPhone means I’m fully present locally but able to connect without distraction online when I do log in each day.

Tell me…How do you keep social media simple?

This post is inspired by Dana Byers

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Making Vision Stick

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Andy Stanley, founding and lead pastor of North Point Community Church. He has written a must-read book – Making Vision Stick- for leader/communicators. The first thing I love about the book is that it’s only 74 pages long. If all books were as short, I’d be able to read a lot more books! Here are some of my favorite quotes:

One of the greatest challenges is making vision stick. Vision doesn’t have much adhesive. To get people to sit still long enough to understand your vision is hard enough. But to get them to actually organize their lives around it is supremely difficult. The urgent and legitimate needs of today quickly erase our commitment to the what could be of tomorrow. It’s the leader’s responsibility to ensure that people understand and embrace the vision of the organization.

5 things you can do to increase the adhesiveness of your vision

1. State the vision simply. if your vision is going to stick in people’s minds, it must be memorable. People don’t remember or embrace paragraphs. They remember and embrace sentences. And, If the vision is too complicated, nothing changes.

2. Cast the vision convincingly. In this section, Andy says leaders must define the problem, offer a solution, and present a reason for the solution. He writes …

Every vision is a solution to a problem. Buy-in by others hinges on your ability to convince them you are offering a solution to a problem they are convinced needs to be solved.

A leader points the way to a solution and gives a compelling reason why something must be done now.

3. Repeat the vision regularly. Continue reading Making Vision Stick

The Art Of Vision

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VISION = a preferred future – everybody has vision = HOPE

What vision can do for you

  • it gives you a clear picture of what you want and what not.
  • the clearer the vision, the easier to say yes or no.

What vision can do for people around you

  • it gives purpose
  • it gives belonging
  • it gives meaning
  • it gives direction

Creating a vision

Social Media For Business

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4 social media tips to send your business off to achieve social media success:

1) Strategy
First, decide which social networks make most sense for your company. It’s better to have a limited, strategic presence on social media than to be everywhere without purpose.

Define your desired goals. For example, do you have the goal of growing your Facebook community? If so, you should be brainstorming content, promotions, and posts that will attract your target customer.

2) Respond
Assigning an intern to manage the social media channels a few hours per week is simply not enough anymore. Your online community expects to receive responses to inquiries in a timely manner (typical accepted response time is within 24 hours). If you aren’t willing to invest the time and money it takes to respond to your online followers, then you probably shouldn’t be on social media.

Customers want to know someone is listening. The simple task of responding speaks volumes to your customer service. If you don’t have the answer and need some time to find it, let that person know that you have seen their question and you are working to get the answer for them.

3) Content
Don’t just broadcast anything to make it look like you’re active on social media. If you want to build a following, create content that makes you a leader in your industry.

If you don’t have enough time to regularly produce original quality content, share the good content that’s already out there or approach the experts to create content for you.

4) Conversation
In real life, when you’re trying to make friends, talking about yourself won’t get you far. It’s the same with social media. Your participation in the space should foster conversation. It’s okay to tell your online community about a new product or promotion, as long as that’s not all you’re doing.

Make it easy for your community, customers, and industry leaders to share content on your social pages. Be an active listener to better understand what your community wants.

How do you use social media for your business?

Share your social media tips with us.

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