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3 things about helping a friend in need.
Honesty is speaking truth and creating trust in minds of others.
If you are honest when helping a friend you will create a save space for them to be open up and trust that your advice will be true.
Almost any difficulty will move in the face of honesty. When I am honest I never feel stupid. And when I am honest I am automatically humble. Hugh Prather
Kings take pleasure in honest lips; they value a man who speaks the truth. Proverbs 16,13
A key word is confrontation!Don’t try to win them, by deceiving honesty. Honesty means: “I love you so much, I will confront you with the truth.” Even if you are not 100% sure. It’s not a crime to change your mind – as long as you are honest about it.
An Adviser is someone who is giving advice.
You can’t solve all problems! Stay open to include advise from other people and friends.
Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed. Proverbs 15,22
Wise men don’t need advice. Fools won’t take it. Benjamin Franklin
A Listener is someone who listens, especially to a speech
Listen with more than just your ears. Your friend may tell you something he can’t say with words.
The first duty of love is to listen. Paul Tillich
- My body is facing you
- I am looking at you
- I can feel your pain
- I hear more than you are saying
Asking questions is a very effective way of active listening. Know that words are only the tip of the Iceberg.
Everybody needs a friend that will help when times are dark. I am thankful for my friends that have carried me trough those tough times.
Sometimes we don’t know how to help. Than it is so good to know that God knows. It’s in moments like these, when we are praying with the right motivation.
May you be the best friend to your friends!