5 Keys For Raising Kids

Leadership is displayed in how you raise your children.
To me, the biggest challenge is to agree on how to raise our kids with my wife.
We both have different backgrounds and views of how it should be done.
Everyone want’s to raise their kids the best way possible.

But what is the best way and how do you do it? Good question!

What do I want my kids to be when they leave my house?

I want our kids grow up with a healthy…

• self-respect
• decision making process
• worldview
• love for God and others
• sense of purpose and belonging

How do we get there?

Of course, Love is the most important thing for a kid, but most parents like me, would love to have a simple plan on how to set guidelines and boundaries.

It’s not easy being a parent! It’s not easy helping kids mature if I don’t know what is important in life..

The most important thing for a kid is, that it is loved and that it sees the love in their parents.
Now let’s get practical!

The 5 C’s to a thriving family!

1. Clarity

My wife and I have to agree on how we want to raise our kids. This means talking about the value of fellowship – having meals together at the table every day, or respect – the language we use with each other. Compromise might be made on both ends, but the way we want it has to be clear! Kids are developing best in a household where the values are clear and everyone is loving, living and protecting them.

2. Communication

Once your values and behavior are clear, it’s important that they are communicated in a understandable way. Not only why you want it like that, but also the consequences that will follow if someone chooses to ignore them.

3. Commitment

To have a clear vision and good communication of how your healthy family should look like is not enough. It takes a full commitment to follow through on all levels. That goes for everyone in the family! No exceptions! The amount of commitment to the family values and behaviors is what gives it the easiness to pull it through for the long haul.

4. Consequences

The whole deal will only work if the consequences are being followed through from both parents. There cannot be any exceptions. This might sound hard, but it’s extremely important for a thriving family to treat everyone equal. Keeping your word is building trust!

To keep your word is more important than to be right.

5. Community

Everything we do, we do for each other. The highest value of a family is love. Love is best displayed if you are there for each other – no matter what.

The value of real community is best shown through a thriving family.

Question: What are your thoughts on raising kids in a world like today?

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