Love Is A Verb
Like a mother loves her child. Love is unconditional. Love is given!
The problem with negative thinking is that it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. People become reinforced in the direction they are determined, and they produce evidence to support the belief. They feel increasingly victimized and out of control, not in charge of their life or destiny.
They blame others or circumstances for their own situation.
After a late poker night my neighbor said to me, “ND, my marriage is very difficult. It’s been like this for a long time. I think we have lived apart. I guess I don’t love her anymore and she does not love me. I think we should separate.”
“The love feeling isn’t there anymore?” I asked.
“Yes!” he reaffirmed.
“What did you promise when you got married?” I asked.
“Did you promise to love her in good and bad times?”
“yes”
“Then love her,” I replied.
“But you don’t understand. The feeling is gone.”
“Than I guess this is a bad time. Love her! If the feeling isn’t there – that’s a good reason to love her even more.”
“But how do you love if you don’t feel the love?”
“My friend, love is a verb. Love—the feeling—is a fruit of love, the verb. So love her. Serve her. Sacrifice. Listen to her. Empathize. Appreciate. Affirm her. Are you willing to do that?”
Love is a verb even if some people make it a feeling.
Intense love does not measure, it just gives. Mother Teresa
We are not a product of our feelings. We are not driven by our feelings. If our feelings control our lives it’s because we given them control and empower them to do so.
Proactive people make love a verb.
Love is something you do, the sacrifices you make.
If you want to see love on full display, look at the people that have sacrificed for others, even for people that did not love in return.
As a parent I know that love is a value that is becoming alive through loving actions.
Proactive people subordinate feelings to values.
Love begins at home, and it is not how much we do… but how much love we put in that action. Mother Teresa
Love, the feeling, can be recaptured.
Question:
- What are you doing to recapture that love feeling?
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“The 7 habits of highly effective people” is one of my favorite books.
Much of this is verbtim from p. 79-80 and Chapter “Habit 1:Be Proactive” of The 7 habits of highly effective people.
The real truth! I love the following sentence: “Proactive people subordinate feelings to values.” Thank you, ND!
Hi ND,
very nice post.
You’ve probably heard about Steven R. Covey. If you haven’t, go and find his book “Seven habits of highly effective people” – you will love it!
Keep spreading the good spirit (and common sense;)
Thomas
Awesome. And incredibly eye opening.
I love to inspire with my blog. There is nothing more rewarding than to hear feedback like that. Thanks and keep the comments coming.
Love is only love if it costs a price. The higher the price you pay the more value you give love.
it is incredible how God uses your blog to confirm statements about topics i which He’s been already talking to me. Love begins at home! and it is a decision! May God continue blessing you to write inspiring messages.
This created a great conversation between my wife and I. We will be sharing this post with several of our married friends who could use the encouragement. Thanks.
Thanks.
To have love in your heart is also the first step toward peace.
Great thought, I should write a post about that. Or you could have a guest post if you like.
What do you think about that.
What i do to recapture love feeling is to admit that i really loved it and started to grow back those love feeling and affection that i need him. Just like when i fell in love at the first time to him. I definitely will do anything to him if i was in love.
Thanks, ND
kei
Your post is beautiful! I always believe if you have love it can go a long way. When you have love in your heart you will also be able to have peace. These two can help you overcome any challenges in life,including trying to run your own business. The no’s sometimes make you feel rejected, but the peace within you tells you to get over it and move on!
Thanks, ND
Joanne
really really deep. love is a verb this is true. first goes not about our fellings it goes all about our decision.