When parents see their children’s problems as opportunities to build the relationship instead of as negative, burdensome irritations, it totally changes the nature of parent-child interaction.
Parents become more willing even excited, about deeply understanding and helping their children.
When a child cames to them with a problem, instead of thinking, “Oh no! Not another proboblem!” their paradigm is, “Here is a great opportunity for me to really help my child and to invest in our relationship.”
Many interactions change from transactional to transformational, and strong bonds of love and trust are created as children sense the value parents give to their problems and to them as individuals.